Leaning

Now that my children are grown, I have decided to change my life.

After they get settled in college, I am going on a journey to find my next destination, the place I will eventually call “home.”

Preparing for this move, I resigned from my job and put my house on the market. I have begun researching different places I believe could be a good fit for me. 

I truly don’t know where I am going, so I am doing what Jack Canfield teaches in his book, The Success Principles. I’m “just leaning into it.”

Canfield suggests when we have a goal in mind but we aren’t sure how to reach it, that we just start by doing something and trust that the next step will reveal itself. 

Canfield compared leaning to driving across the country in the dark, only seeing a hundred feet at a time with your headlights. He said we could get clear from California to New York with this limited vision, because as we keep moving forward, the next portion of the way becomes known.

Martin Luther King Jr. taught the same concept when he said, “You don’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step in faith.”

Fear is not necessary. The unknowns of carrying out any plan simply haven’t revealed themselves yet. 

When you get stuck, follow (the founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics) Mary Kay Ash’s advice: “When you come to a roadblock, take a detour. There’s always an alternative course of action.”

Another way to lean into change is to cling tightly to your faith. In his book, The Surrender Experiment, Michael Singer shares his transformation of trusting a power far beyond himself in the creation of his life.

He used to think he had to control everything for things to turn out well. Then he realized this: “If the natural unfolding of the process of life can create and take care of the entire universe, is it really reasonable for us to assume that nothing good will happen unless we force it to?”

Self-help pioneer, Wayne W. Dyer reminds us that we were created by a Divine source who took complete care of our needs in our mother’s wombs without any direction or action on our part. 

That same Divine source is orchestrating all of life on Earth. In other words, the grass does not strain to grow. The flowers open up because it is their nature to do so. 

The author Singer asks, “What would happen if we respected the flow of life and used our free will to participate in what’s unfolding, instead of fighting it?” (This is the surrender he speaks of.)

So I am approaching this season in my life with this attitude. I am leaning into beginning again. 

Do I have a job lined up? No. Do I know where I will live? No. I also have a home for sale in Kansas and my dad’s home still for sale in Iowa. My role at the counseling center is yet to be filled.

None of these seemingly significant details have been ironed out just yet, and I leave in four weeks. Am I panicking? No.

I am acting on what I know for sure: It’s time for me to go. There is something else for me to do professionally and a new chapter in my personal life is waiting to evolve. 

So, I’m leaning into it, taking the steps I can to move in that direction, knowing the next step will appear as needed. I know everything I need to know right now, and I am openly curious about what will be revealed to me next, trusting the process and learning all I can along the way. 

I encourage you to lean into anything you are feeling driven to do at this time in your life. Be confident in your abilities and trust a power greater than yourself to guide you forward.

As the famous Chinese proverb states, “Learning is like the horizon: there is no limit.” So I will get in my car leaning into the unknown horizon before me, turn on my headlights and follow.

© - Cindy D. Whitmer (July 25, 2015)